My close friend Becky asked me the other day how many weeks I was and I couldn't even tell her. It's funny how things are.. different with your second. With Jack I knew every day how far along I was, what day of the week my "week" changed, what exact fetal developement was expected at that stage. With thischild, Jack has me too busy to worry much about any of that. It's sad in a way, although I know this child will be loved with all the intensity I have for Jack. So, yeah.. I checked today and I'm 30 weeks.
Not only is the big change of being a mother to 2 looming over my head, I am also quite aware of another large change for me-- not working. Don't get me wrong... I realize 2 kids is a lot of work-- one almost does me in on a regular basis- but this will be the first time in a loong time that my obligations will fall mostly with myself, my husband and my kids. I do worry about boredom, or maybe the lack of self-fulfillment that I've heard other mothers warn about. I have to set goals for myself that I will not stay in my pajamas all day just because I can. I will try not be a hermit or an internet junkie.
Despite my worries I am looking forward to this season of my life!
I finished "New Moon" this morning over breakfast. (Thanks again Debbie!) I'm eager to start "Eclipse"!
Questions for you all:
I would love tips from any stay at home moms.. what keeps you from feeling discouraged at times?
Have you read the "Twilight" series? What did you think?
11 comments:
Love love loved the Twilight series!! Kaden hates it when I find books that I love to read...it makes him feel neglected.
As for the whole stay-at-home mom thing...You just have to take it day by day. It is weird not to have to go to work, and you do get lost a little as far as the whole "self fulfillment" thing...But then you have this amazing day with your kids and they say something that just makes your heart melt...and then you know it is worth it.
Also, make sure you get to do a "girls night" once a month...(they remind me that I AM an individual and not just a "wife" or "mother")that has also been my saving grace at times!
So true about the 2nd pregnancy thing!
Honestly, I had a really hard time adjusting to staying home all day. It's challenging but in a non-stimulating kind of way. It really shows you what you're made of! I have to kick myself in the butt, instead of relying on deadlines or bosses.
As make it a rule to shower and get ready every day. Makes a HUGE difference!
Laura, when I graduated from college and became a full time stay at home mom with my second babe it took some adjusting.
I am high maintenance, so I get out with friends and/or by myself once a week and it helps a lot. Having a schedule or a routine helped me in the beginning especially, and then planning fun things with the kids to look forward to is also nice.
I have a bookclub and a cooking group and that's a lot of fun, and I put books on hold at the library that way I don't have to wander around trying to find stuff with the kids.
Also, totally random sidenote, my mom was telling me about Suzie C's kitchen/house remodel and it sounds like it's going to be nice. You are so good!
Oh! And I read the Twilight series. After my friends and I finished reading them we got together and discussed them over lunch and brough hot food if we liked Jacob and cold food if we liked Edward.
Have you seen the info about the Twilight movie?
just wait til you are pregnant with your 3rd. then you really forget how many weeks you are. the only reason i remembered is because i had a ticker on my blog. lol.
Wow! 10 weeks left...so exciting! I love the profile pic of your family. Jack is so big!
I love your new banner - so springy! And, I enjoyed the Twilight books too. AND, since this is my first pregnancy, I don't have any tips for you, just that I will be in the same boat with becoming a SAHM. :)
I wish I had some great pearls of wisdom to share since this is something I do struggle with. I'll be asking you for advice in a couple of months!!:)
I was never bored staying home with the boys...Now that they aren't home, I would lose it here all day by myself. Seriously.
I wish I had some great advice for you, but you've seen me I don't get dressed until I absolutly have to. Steph and I use to get together every wednesday and scrapbook, which gave us something to look forward to and helped us keep our sanity, and I would love to get back into that routine. So get Jeremy to get all of your scrapbooking stuff out and we will set a date.
Loved Twilight! I really didn't expect to...a friend kept telling me about this series that was about vampires..huh? She made me promise I'd try it & I was hooked. Such a fun escape.
Staying home can be really tough. I've done both - stayed home & worked. For me, I never felt like I was giving 100% to my kids while I worked. Make an effort to get out at least once a day (even if it's for a drive to get a soda). Take time to take care of yourself, have play dates, etc. I agree with Melissa - showering & getting ready DOES help big time!!! Good luck!
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